Mother Problems

Sat May 07, 2005 2:30 am

Ok well I've got some motherly problems.

For the past week my moms been really mean to me. I have no idea why. he even said tha I wasn't her daughter anymore and that really hurt my feelings. I told her that I was gonna run away and she said she didn't care. Yesterday I tried apoligizing and she just gave me the cold sholder. I don't know what her problem is but she's really starting to get on my nerves.

Sat May 07, 2005 5:29 am

Perhaps a "little birdy" has told her something that she isn't happy with and it concerns you? That is the only thing I can think could be the problem if you don't know what it is that you might have done. My suggestion would be to sit down with her and ask her if she is okay, just try to talk to her. Don't make it confronting, make it so that you're talking to her because you're concerned for her feelings and want to know if she's alright. From there you may be able to get some idea of what you did wrong (if anything) and try to sort it out. I wouldn't suggest trying to threaten her into talking to you or changing, telling someone you'll run away isn't exactly the best thing to do. Other than that, all I can say is good luck

Website · Sat May 07, 2005 6:44 am

That's horrible. No mother should ever say things about not wanting their children anymore. Is she going through relationship troubles with your father?

Sat May 07, 2005 1:44 pm

I agree with Medusa. I know you're probably hurting now but just try to talk with her. She'll tell you eventually...

Sat May 07, 2005 4:12 pm

*hugs* Is there anything perhaps going on that could be upsetting her? Maybe a death in the family, money or problems or the like? I really hope you can work things out with her. My mom says that often when she's angry or upset things come out of her mouth that she really doesn't mean, maybe it's like that?

Sat May 07, 2005 4:31 pm

Well I don't know. Nothing different has happened. I'm still acting the way that I always act... Everytime I go to ask her whats wrong she just ignores me..

Sat May 07, 2005 4:56 pm

Michelle wrote:Well I don't know. Nothing different has happened. I'm still acting the way that I always act... Everytime I go to ask her whats wrong she just ignores me..

That's awful. Your mother shouldn't have to treat you like that. Is she only doing it to you or is she off with everybody? Sounds like she's in an awful mood and is taking it out on you. I'd do the same with her as she is doing to you. If she so much as glances at you, look away. Pretend that you're not bothered that she's off with you. It might be just the thing to make her realise what it feels like and how much this has affected the both of you.

Sat May 07, 2005 11:21 pm

I agree with Medusa. Maybe she's got the wrong end of the stick somehow?

Sun May 08, 2005 12:24 am

Ginger Harp Seal Pup wrote:
Michelle wrote:Well I don't know. Nothing different has happened. I'm still acting the way that I always act... Everytime I go to ask her whats wrong she just ignores me..

That's awful. Your mother shouldn't have to treat you like that. Is she only doing it to you or is she off with everybody? Sounds like she's in an awful mood and is taking it out on you. I'd do the same with her as she is doing to you. If she so much as glances at you, look away. Pretend that you're not bothered that she's off with you. It might be just the thing to make her realise what it feels like and how much this has affected the both of you.

Ginger I know what you're saying but doing that it may elevate the situation. I would advise agaist that... no offence Ginger.

Sun May 08, 2005 12:38 am

Qanda wrote:That's horrible. No mother should ever say things about not wanting their children anymore. Is she going through relationship troubles with your father?

I agree with you, Qanda. It is very horrible.

And I must ask whether she is having some sort of personal problems herself. I say this because that happened to me when I was a kid. My mother was an alcoholic, had marital problems with my dad, was horribly depressed, and had a kid like me who was smart was a whip and challenged everything that did not seem right. She had very low self-esteem and was getting old and unattractive right at the time I was "blossoming" so to speak. And was very jealous of my relationship with my dad. I won't go into too much detail, but she was not very nice to me--at all. She favored my sister because my sister was so similar to her--looked like her, didn't get A's in school like I did, didn't challenge authority.

And, only now, being in my 40's, do I understand a little bit of what she was going through and have been actually able to forgive her for being so horrible to me.

Don't let your mom get you down. Realize that what she is going through may not have anything to do with you--and that she may be saying what she is saying to you just to get her frustration and anger out. Like the proverbial guy who comes home from a hard day of work with a boss yelling at him and kicks the dog instead of yelling back at his boss.

I would suggest talking to her, but if she refuses to listen (as my mom did with me), I suggest that you talk to an adult that you fully trust--teacher, aunt, older sister, grandmother--about it.

And, perhaps, you can talk with your dad in confidence about what is happening. I don't know her age, but I do know that all women go through hormonal changes at some point in time between the late thirties and early fifties. And, trust me, those changes can often make a woman feel like a time-bomb just waiting to go off. Particularly if they don't realize what is happening. If that is what is happening to your mom, you might want to get your dad (or perhaps another woman in the family that your mom is close to) to talk to her about it. There are many, many good medicines out there--regular and alternative--to help women through that phase in their life.

Sun May 08, 2005 5:23 am

Thanks everyone. Morningstar I did as you said and I told my aunt and she told my mom. It turns out her boss is being really mean and rude to her so she was taking it out on me. She has now apologized and things are going fine. Thanks again everyone.

Sun May 08, 2005 9:56 am

I'm just glad we could be of some little help to you. ^_^

Sun May 08, 2005 11:45 am

.:Chronically Depressed:. wrote:
Ginger Harp Seal Pup wrote:
Michelle wrote:Well I don't know. Nothing different has happened. I'm still acting the way that I always act... Everytime I go to ask her whats wrong she just ignores me..

That's awful. Your mother shouldn't have to treat you like that. Is she only doing it to you or is she off with everybody? Sounds like she's in an awful mood and is taking it out on you. I'd do the same with her as she is doing to you. If she so much as glances at you, look away. Pretend that you're not bothered that she's off with you. It might be just the thing to make her realise what it feels like and how much this has affected the both of you.

Ginger I know what you're saying but doing that it may elevate the situation. I would advise agaist that... no offence Ginger.

Heh, it doesn't matter. Seems like everything is sorted now though so

Sun May 08, 2005 10:33 pm

Michelle wrote:Thanks everyone. Morningstar I did as you said and I told my aunt and she told my mom. It turns out her boss is being really mean and rude to her so she was taking it out on me. She has now apologized and things are going fine. Thanks again everyone.

Oh, hurray for you! I love happy endings.

Mon May 09, 2005 12:41 am

Morningstar wrote:
Michelle wrote:Thanks everyone. Morningstar I did as you said and I told my aunt and she told my mom. It turns out her boss is being really mean and rude to her so she was taking it out on me. She has now apologized and things are going fine. Thanks again everyone.

Oh, hurray for you! I love happy endings.

lol Yeah me too. I was just really glad everything got resolved by Mother's Day