I don't understand (PPT related)

[Ginger Harp Seal Pup]

I'm feeling really left out of this forum. Wanna know why? Because everyone seems to know when everybody's birthday is and I don't. And people know things about other forumers and I don't. Shoyru Lover knows that someone in the forum is getting married and someone else said that they'd been talking about it for ages but I can't remember seeing any marriage threads or anything. Nothing that has been really talked about on the forum. Is there a chat room or something that you guys go on? I feel like I'm in the dark and not really a member here at all. You know when you're just 'there' and don't fit in and don't really have a personality? You're just that person in the group? Well I feel like that.

[Paul]

Don't worry, Ginger. I feel like all the time.

[Inexistence]

I only know a select few people even close to personally, and not that well either. Some probably talk to each other IRL, I'm the only PPTer in my area that I know of. Just get a select group and hold on tight! -inserts the kitty picture that says 'Hold on' or something-

[Nessa]

aww Ginger *hugs*

Alot of people PM each other when they see they have something in common with someone else and friendships spur from that. And then before you know it you're friends with their friends and it just snowballs from there.

So really just look around for someone's posts that you enjoy reading and PM them, let them know that you think they're a nice person. =)

[VeraX]

Hey, that's exactly how I feel. I know nothing about anyone on here... well... other than Jen because I borrow her computer, and Vans because he's one of my friends. Oh yeah, and we've bought like 5 horses off Jen but she's like.. gone.. and Vans was never really here.

But I know nothing about anyone, or anything that's going on. And I don't really care.

[ria]

I know how you feel Ginger, I used to be like that around here. I was just a shy PPTer who only hung around the RP board.

But then, as I spent more time on the RP board, I began to make friends there. Some of us started to PM each other and discuss certain RPs we were in, and some of us joined other people's RPs just because we knew that that person's RP was going to be good (because of previous experience).

After about a year here I began to venture out more, I may not always post in threads, but I do read them a lot, and I've developed a few more friendships with others here. But it takes time.

The best way to start is by finding one particular board which is about something you really, really enjoy (which for me is RPing), then you have to spend time there, posting your opinion, reading others' opinions, and soon enough you'll find people who you really enjoy talking to, then you might start PMing them and before you know it you'll have tons of friends!

Seriously though, I'm sure there are many PPTers here who consider you to be a friend, I myself don't personally talk to you often, but I know who you are, and I like hearing your opinion about things, which is why I often visit your posts (like now).

You may have more friends than you realise.

[Ammer]

Ginger, a lot of PPTers feel the same way as you. I didn't know Werepup was getting married and I honestly don't feel hurt as I'm not really close with Werepup. I wish her the best of luck but it makes sense that most PPTers don't know as she would only tell her close friends. Most of the time when you see people post "Oh, I knew this," or "Why did you post my birthday thread?!" is because these people know one another.

The only things I ever know on this forum where no one else does is because of Dan, Stephanie and Monique. That's only the case because I know them in real life.

Don't worry, once you get more close to certain people, you'll find out a lot of stuff.

[Fiddelysquat]

Many people say they are left out, but I beg the question:

Have you ever gone out of your way to contact someone?

Friends don't just pop out of thin air. The friends I have are people I randomly IM'ed or PM'ed, or people who randomly contacted me. You have to initiate a conversation with someone if you want to get to know them. Birthday threads are made by fpeople who know their friend's birthday. You wouldn't receive a balloon and presents from a total stranger on your birthday, would you? The wedding thread was started by Kym because he's known Eileen for years.

If you are really interested in getting to know people, try just contacting someone you bump in to on the forums a lot and whose personality you like. Take the initiative!

[ahoteinrun]

There are 5465 members on this forum as I post this. I'm fairly sure that you can get to know members on this forum considering the numbers. All you need to do is crack down and reach out. If you read your threads, there are definately people that care about you and your well being, perhaps attempt to contact those people that are reaching out to you?

[meowth1982]

I know how you feel cause I've often felt the same way. I have friends on the forum, but sometimes you still don't feel like you're a part of the major group, or the clique that tends to be in the forefront. *hugs you* Just hang in there, it's not about being a part of a clique... it's about having discussions that mean something.

...or at least that's my opinion.

[Ginger Harp Seal Pup]

I'm not too keen on PM's. A lot of people I've tried to contact and they either don't get in contact back or do get in contact, we talk for a little while, maybe exchange three or four PMs and then don't bother to contact me anymore. This is more another forum I go to rather than this one. I wrote a reply to a girl's PM, it was really long and I asked her a few questions and stuff like that, and I never got a reply for months. Then she decided to leave the forum and didn't even say bye. It kind of puts you off trying to make friends, you know.

Sorry, I didn't mean to turn this into a pity board. I'm feeling sorry for myself.

[Kitten Medli]

I agree with Fidds, you gotta PM people. You don't get anywhere if you don't try. I know I PM'ed with you a few times and let it drop. I apologize. I'm totally willing to get in contact with you again.

Its a good idea to PM people you know have similar intrests and such. Thats how I met DM, and *sort of* how I met Messs17..

[Zero!]

Eh, I'm left out here too. Though I honestly don't mind anymore.
Yeah, you do have to reach out a bit if you wanna make friends here. That's how I made friends.

Oh, and a word of advice: When making friends here, also try and get their IM screennames. I relied on this forum to talk to friends of mine, and then they quit, and now I don't talk to them anymore because I don't know how to...

[Divine]

Hehe, Inex PMed me about some story that I was writing and that's how we became friends .

Well anyways, I agree with others... just try and PM someone once in a while. I've PMed a few people who have the same interests as me *cough FireEmblem cough* but some have never replied. It doesn't really matter to me though, I guess I can be a little scary sometimes XD.

I used to feel like this though. But well. It's online life. Real life is more important anyways!

And you are a member here =P. I think you are really interesting, and I really enjoy discussing (I almost wrote disgusting) all the topics that you make. Oh and also, try telling someone that it's your birthday next time, and they'll post it =P. That's what I'm going to do on my brithday

[VeraX]

My sympathy for you just dropped 4 or 5 notches when I checked my outbox and realised it was you who didn't reply to the 2 or 3 PM's I sent you.

People won't talk to you unless you talk to them.
In my case.. people won't talk to me even if I talk to them.