A real girl chat
Sun Feb 19, 2006 2:28 am
Um I don't know how to put this, but I promise not to use things like:
And she was all like, yeah, and he was all like no, And she was all like, yeah, and he was all like no, And she was all like, yeah, and he was all like no...........ect.
Anyways, I will start from the begining. I have had a crush since the begining of the school year.
All my friends know and we are a really close group of friends. Half way through the year some girl over-heard me talking about him to one of my friends. She then went and told him about my crush. I was thinking about getting one of my friends to ask him to the Valantine's Day Dance on Feb. 24th. Then I heard on the same day that the some girl told him I liked him told me he had a girl-friend named Soyer. He confermed it. I guess he is taking her to the dance. I am really really shy when it comes to guys though and I am afraid of being shot-down. He has stopped talking to me since he heard and shows no sign of liking me. I cannot bear it if he says no cuz he goes on my bus. I see him every-day.
Sorry if that was a bit un-clear.
Question 1: Should I risk it and ask him?
Question 2: Is his girl-friend real?
I NEED ADVICE!!!!!
And she was all like, yeah, and he was all like no, And she was all like, yeah, and he was all like no, And she was all like, yeah, and he was all like no...........ect.
Anyways, I will start from the begining. I have had a crush since the begining of the school year.
All my friends know and we are a really close group of friends. Half way through the year some girl over-heard me talking about him to one of my friends. She then went and told him about my crush. I was thinking about getting one of my friends to ask him to the Valantine's Day Dance on Feb. 24th. Then I heard on the same day that the some girl told him I liked him told me he had a girl-friend named Soyer. He confermed it. I guess he is taking her to the dance. I am really really shy when it comes to guys though and I am afraid of being shot-down. He has stopped talking to me since he heard and shows no sign of liking me. I cannot bear it if he says no cuz he goes on my bus. I see him every-day.
Sorry if that was a bit un-clear.
Question 1: Should I risk it and ask him?
Question 2: Is his girl-friend real?
I NEED ADVICE!!!!!
Sun Feb 19, 2006 2:43 am
seeing as im a guy, youd think i'd now a whole bunch about this
but i dont...
i would go for it, and even if he says no you still built up the confidence to ask him, and you can ask to have one dance with him and if thats to much, hes not worth it..
about the gallfriend, i would go and ask some of his friends if it was true, or look her up in the yearbook and/or school directory if you have one
but yea.. thats my two cents worth...
but i dont...
i would go for it, and even if he says no you still built up the confidence to ask him, and you can ask to have one dance with him and if thats to much, hes not worth it..
about the gallfriend, i would go and ask some of his friends if it was true, or look her up in the yearbook and/or school directory if you have one
but yea.. thats my two cents worth...
Sun Feb 19, 2006 2:47 am
You are right, I think I will take you're advice. And if he says no then at least I will know I should move on. Oh and you're advice is worth more than 2cents to me. 
Thanks alot.
Thanks alot.
Sun Feb 19, 2006 2:59 am
better to try and find out for yourself than never fins out at all. take some courage with you and act. You can then be proud that you at least moved forward with your feelings.
Sun Feb 19, 2006 3:01 am
Sorry to be a downer, but don't.
If he said he has a girlfriend, he's clearly not looking for one for one reason or another. Even if he isn't going to the dance with her, it's not appropriate for him to go with you. Don't do it, it won't work out and you'll feel bad.
Sorry this isn't what a girl-in-love wants to hear, but he clearly isn't interested.
If he said he has a girlfriend, he's clearly not looking for one for one reason or another. Even if he isn't going to the dance with her, it's not appropriate for him to go with you. Don't do it, it won't work out and you'll feel bad.
Sorry this isn't what a girl-in-love wants to hear, but he clearly isn't interested.
Sun Feb 19, 2006 10:39 am
And given how old you are, this guy isn't going to end up fathering your children, it's really not worth losing sleep over. Here's a spontaneous metaphor I thought of:
Going out with boys is like browsing for clothes. You take loads off the rack, try them out and then dump them. At times you might think you've found the sleek and silky top that's the one for you and you get all crazy like this.
But kitty, you aren't even in the right shop.
So don't worry about it, I promise he'll forget about it, and you'll forget about it too. Just don't think about it too much.
EDIT: And some sarcastic, possibly mocking comments too.
Going out with boys is like browsing for clothes. You take loads off the rack, try them out and then dump them. At times you might think you've found the sleek and silky top that's the one for you and you get all crazy like this.
But kitty, you aren't even in the right shop.
So don't worry about it, I promise he'll forget about it, and you'll forget about it too. Just don't think about it too much.
EDIT: And some sarcastic, possibly mocking comments too.
Sun Feb 19, 2006 12:00 pm
That a rather decent analogy for you Nicky boy.
Anyway, I agree with Jen. Don't go for it. If he's got a girlfriend, he won't be interested. If he is interested, he's not worth it if he's willing to cheat. I always say, if a bloke cheats on his girlfriend with you, he wouldn't think twice about cheating on you with someone else.
Sorry.
Anyway, I agree with Jen. Don't go for it. If he's got a girlfriend, he won't be interested. If he is interested, he's not worth it if he's willing to cheat. I always say, if a bloke cheats on his girlfriend with you, he wouldn't think twice about cheating on you with someone else.
Sorry.
Mon Feb 20, 2006 12:38 am
*Sigh* I guess you guys are right. I shouldn't ask him after all. Well here is the count:
yes: 2 no: 3
Too bad I really liked him.....
But if you guys say its for the best, I trust you
yes: 2 no: 3
Too bad I really liked him.....
But if you guys say its for the best, I trust you
Fri Feb 24, 2006 9:25 pm
Unrequited love/crushes are tough, hon. I've been struggling with one since the beginning of the school year, and it hasn't gotten any easier. Thankfully, though I'm quite sure he knows how I feel about him, we've been able to stay friends. And he's a great guy, so being friends is almost as good as having a relationship. Actually, I take that back, but at least it's something.
Anyhow, my recommendation for you is that you should try to hang out with this guy in a nonromantic setting. If you can be friends with him, that's great - and it's always possible that if the thing with his girlfriend ends, you'll be next on the list. If you're having a hard time being friends with him, a relationship probably wouldn't have worked out anyhow, so there's really no downside.
Anyhow, my recommendation for you is that you should try to hang out with this guy in a nonromantic setting. If you can be friends with him, that's great - and it's always possible that if the thing with his girlfriend ends, you'll be next on the list. If you're having a hard time being friends with him, a relationship probably wouldn't have worked out anyhow, so there's really no downside.
Sun Feb 26, 2006 11:38 am
Don't he has someone already and it would be kinda awkward and strange. I don't think he would lie about a girlfriend so don't let yourself mixed up, and eventually in the position that you don't want to be in.