Girl problem: Crush and crush???
Sat Jul 10, 2004 8:27 am
Here's the story:
I'm sure you've heard it many times lol. Anyway, it's me....and my crush (NOT girlfriend), Nahyeon. So, we've been in the same class for four years in a row. Everyone thinks we like each other. I like her, but refuse to admit it (being picked on). HOWEVER, I'm not sure if she has the same feelings for me. Can anybody think of a way to confirm this? We both like the Deltora Quest series (god it's addictive lol) and she let me borrow the last two books of seriees one cause I couldn't find them. She also let me read her special edition Deltora Book of Monsters and Beasts. I have easier ways to start of the convosation now (about Deltora Quest), but it's gonna be hard to change the subject, quickly or slowly. want this all to happen without anybody finding out I like her....but there's one person in the class who knows. Reece. He USED to be my friend, but I gave up on him after he punched me. I doubt anybody would believe him, though, cause he has no friends (hangs out with the juniors) and is basically the class troublemaker. This always happens every year, and both me an Nahyeon have lots of things in common.
I'm sure you've heard it many times lol. Anyway, it's me....and my crush (NOT girlfriend), Nahyeon. So, we've been in the same class for four years in a row. Everyone thinks we like each other. I like her, but refuse to admit it (being picked on). HOWEVER, I'm not sure if she has the same feelings for me. Can anybody think of a way to confirm this? We both like the Deltora Quest series (god it's addictive lol) and she let me borrow the last two books of seriees one cause I couldn't find them. She also let me read her special edition Deltora Book of Monsters and Beasts. I have easier ways to start of the convosation now (about Deltora Quest), but it's gonna be hard to change the subject, quickly or slowly. want this all to happen without anybody finding out I like her....but there's one person in the class who knows. Reece. He USED to be my friend, but I gave up on him after he punched me. I doubt anybody would believe him, though, cause he has no friends (hangs out with the juniors) and is basically the class troublemaker. This always happens every year, and both me an Nahyeon have lots of things in common.
Last edited by Chaud on Sat Jul 10, 2004 9:30 am, edited 1 time in total.
Sat Jul 10, 2004 8:38 am
Have you considered sucking it up and just asking her?
Sat Jul 10, 2004 9:30 am
robot wrote:Have you considered sucking it up and just asking her?
I'm afraid to if she says no I'll be real depressed. Abnyway, I'm too nervous and we're too young to be dating each other.
Sat Jul 10, 2004 9:31 am
Ahhhhhhh,now I missed you,Chaud. I had no one to lecture. 
Does it really matter if she likes you or not? For now? Just ignore everyone and continue to be her friend. In a few years (12..13,maybe? Seems a nice age to me..just dont start going out then.
) you can tell her. And,hey,if your friendship ends,she wasnt the right one. Yeah,it would hurt,but you just have to look on to the future.
Peace out little dude.
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Sorry,I thought it was hilarious.
Does it really matter if she likes you or not? For now? Just ignore everyone and continue to be her friend. In a few years (12..13,maybe? Seems a nice age to me..just dont start going out then.
) you can tell her. And,hey,if your friendship ends,she wasnt the right one. Yeah,it would hurt,but you just have to look on to the future.
Peace out little dude.
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Sorry,I thought it was hilarious.
Sat Jul 10, 2004 9:49 am
Kitten Medli wrote:Ahhhhhhh,now I missed you,Chaud. I had no one to lecture.
Does it really matter if she likes you or not? For now? Just ignore everyone and continue to be her friend. In a few years (12..13,maybe? Seems a nice age to me..just dont start going out then.
Peace out little dude.
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Sorry,I thought it was hilarious.
Lol, I love your lecturing. I was hiding from your terribly awesome lecturing
Anyway, I'm only really her friend because we like the same books. I just don't know how I'm gonna tell her. When I chat to her about Deltora Quest that's the only thing we really get into. I never sit down when we chat though...cause of reasons I know but I can't explain.
I honestly would rather die than betray her.
Sat Jul 10, 2004 11:06 am
Just go for it. If she says no, then there's still a chance that in the furture she'll feel the same about you...and if she says yes, then, well, YAYNESS!
Mention how much you love her, too...and this time, wear a helmet!
Mention how much you love her, too...and this time, wear a helmet!
Sat Jul 10, 2004 12:16 pm
I once got the courage to just walk up to the guy I liked and tell him that I liked him. It had been bugging me for a while, so I went ahead and did it.
He rejected me, but you know I felt loads better afterwards. Just getting it off your chest helps ^.^ By the sounds of things, you're good friends, so it shouldnt be too hard to just go back to that afterwards.
He rejected me, but you know I felt loads better afterwards. Just getting it off your chest helps ^.^ By the sounds of things, you're good friends, so it shouldnt be too hard to just go back to that afterwards.
Sat Jul 10, 2004 1:41 pm
robot wrote:Have you considered sucking it up and just asking her?
Exactly what I was thinking...
Just go tell her how you feel, its better to know if she doesn't like ou then to be never know at all. And if she doesn't you can get a chance to get over her and move on instead being hooked on the same person forever because you never asked.
Sat Jul 10, 2004 2:31 pm
This reminds me of two stories.
I once told a crush that I liked him. A few months later, I had someone tell him I didn't like him, because he didn't like it that I liked him. After I told him, he started to like me more (as a friend...I think...) and we always joked around together in math. This was back in fifth grade...but anyway. I guess the lesson is that sometimes being "liked" can creep someone out, and then after they're done being creeped out, they start liking you. Maybe it's just a friendly like, but it's something.
Which brings me to my next story...
In sixth grade, about a year later, this guy (not the same one) told me he liked me. I was all, "Okay, cool", since I didn't even barely know the guy. Then I started thinking about him more...and more...and then I realized that him telling me he liked me had made me like him. So it's worth a try. (It turned out, six months later, that he was only kidding, but I highly doubt that you're kidding, so I'd say just tell her.)
I'm sorry if all that confused you...to make it clearer, my answer is tell her. She may not like you now, but when she finds out, she may start to like you.
I once told a crush that I liked him. A few months later, I had someone tell him I didn't like him, because he didn't like it that I liked him. After I told him, he started to like me more (as a friend...I think...) and we always joked around together in math. This was back in fifth grade...but anyway. I guess the lesson is that sometimes being "liked" can creep someone out, and then after they're done being creeped out, they start liking you. Maybe it's just a friendly like, but it's something.
Which brings me to my next story...
In sixth grade, about a year later, this guy (not the same one) told me he liked me. I was all, "Okay, cool", since I didn't even barely know the guy. Then I started thinking about him more...and more...and then I realized that him telling me he liked me had made me like him. So it's worth a try. (It turned out, six months later, that he was only kidding, but I highly doubt that you're kidding, so I'd say just tell her.)
I'm sorry if all that confused you...to make it clearer, my answer is tell her. She may not like you now, but when she finds out, she may start to like you.
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Sat Jul 10, 2004 2:31 pm
I was waiting for this topic when I saw that you'd joined.
My suggestion would be to keep talking to her about something you both know about and like. Eventually, you guys will be more comfortable with each other and I can almost guarantee that you will one day feel comfortable enough with her that you can easily talk to her about it.
I wouldn't overdo it by stalking her or anything, but I'm almost certain that that method will work.
And (you knew I was going to say this) I would suggest not bringing up dating or anything of that sort until you are atleast one or two years older. It would probably be safest if you waited until your 12 or 13th birthday to bring it up.
My suggestion would be to keep talking to her about something you both know about and like. Eventually, you guys will be more comfortable with each other and I can almost guarantee that you will one day feel comfortable enough with her that you can easily talk to her about it.
I wouldn't overdo it by stalking her or anything, but I'm almost certain that that method will work.
And (you knew I was going to say this) I would suggest not bringing up dating or anything of that sort until you are atleast one or two years older. It would probably be safest if you waited until your 12 or 13th birthday to bring it up.
Sat Jul 10, 2004 3:02 pm
Chaud wrote:I honestly would rather die than betray her.
I think that's overreacting a bit. You're not betraying her by telling her how you feel. Sure, she may feel a little strange after you admit it to her, but I don't think it should come as a big shock. After all, if you both like the same books and you have long conversations about this one thing that you have in common, then the possibility that you like her ought to be pretty obvious to her. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if she already knew (Because girls have this weird sixth sense where they can figure out stuff like this
) but she didn't want to tell you that she knew, in case she was wrong.
At any rate, go ahead and tell her. If she gets upset about it or things become awkward between you two because she doesn't feel comfortable about the fact that you like her, then hey, that's her problem. Remember that you'll come across a lot more girls that you will like just as much (Probably more, as you will have matured a lot by that time) when you're older, and honestly, those are the ones that matter.
If you really want to keep things going with this girl even after you've told her, just be sure to mention that you realize you're too young to be dating yet, and that you want to stay friends.
Sat Jul 10, 2004 10:20 pm
Dawn2 wrote:I was waiting for this topic when I saw that you'd joined.
My suggestion would be to keep talking to her about something you both know about and like. Eventually, you guys will be more comfortable with each other and I can almost guarantee that you will one day feel comfortable enough with her that you can easily talk to her about it.
I wouldn't overdo it by stalking her or anything, but I'm almost certain that that method will work.
And (you knew I was going to say this) I would suggest not bringing up dating or anything of that sort until you are atleast one or two years older. It would probably be safest if you waited until your 12 or 13th birthday to bring it up.
Lol I would't STALK her that's just waste my time anyway lol. So, waiting for this topic? If everybody tries to keep this topic alive in about 1 week I could get some updates cause right now it's the holidays.
I want to tell her....but I just can't do it if she finds out the rumors are half-true, but she doesn't like me. Sure, we're good friends, but that's pretty much all we chat about. Besides that, we seem to avoid each other. We're supposed arch rivals since kindergarden, but now it seems different. When we're alone she acts less of my enemy, but with companions she seems to act repellitive.
Once we both were watching the official soccer game played by the juniors at main recess, hosted by Mr Dawkins. I was with my friends too and we got into one of those play-fights. Besides that, Nahyeon and her friends were higher above the bank, watching the game and us fighting. I honestly heard her friend Shivani say "Do you really like Ben?". I swear I thought I heard that, but I could've been sorta dreaming cause I was wresling one of my friends while rolling down the bank. I didn't her the reply, but I heard a reply come. I couldn't hear what it WAS though.
Sun Jul 11, 2004 8:25 am
Chaud, just tell her. Really, there's nothing to worry about.
I know there's a guy who likes me. I've been told he likes me for over a year. The fact he likes me isn't what annoys me, it's the fact he won't say anything. And because he doesn't, I'm not able to tell him I'm not interested (no matter how many hints I give out).
o.O Who was that?
I know there's a guy who likes me. I've been told he likes me for over a year. The fact he likes me isn't what annoys me, it's the fact he won't say anything. And because he doesn't, I'm not able to tell him I'm not interested (no matter how many hints I give out).
Destiny wrote:I once got the courage to just walk up to the guy I liked and tell him that I liked him. It had been bugging me for a while, so I went ahead and did it.
He rejected me, but you know I felt loads better afterwards. Just getting it off your chest helps ^.^ By the sounds of things, you're good friends, so it shouldnt be too hard to just go back to that afterwards.
o.O Who was that?
Sun Jul 11, 2004 8:36 am
C'mon,Benny boy. You have to go for it. We'll all support you even if she doesnt like you back. Hey,her feelings could even CHANGE in a few years.
Oh,and if shes acts like that...I can say that the chances of her liking you are just about 95%. People tend to pretend to ignore the ones they like..ever heard of playing hard to get?
You seem like a troubled kid,Ben. I'll make sure to keep you in my prayers. I have no doubts God will take care of ya.
Oh,and if shes acts like that...I can say that the chances of her liking you are just about 95%. People tend to pretend to ignore the ones they like..ever heard of playing hard to get?
You seem like a troubled kid,Ben. I'll make sure to keep you in my prayers. I have no doubts God will take care of ya.
Sun Jul 11, 2004 8:46 am
Kitten Medli wrote:C'mon,Benny boy. You have to go for it. We'll all support you even if she doesnt like you back. Hey,her feelings could even CHANGE in a few years.
Oh,and if shes acts like that...I can say that the chances of her liking you are just about 95%. People tend to pretend to ignore the ones they like..ever heard of playing hard to get?
You seem like a troubled kid,Ben. I'll make sure to keep you in my prayers. I have no doubts God will take care of ya.
I play hard to get. I rarely morph my personality. I have lately and I seem to be loving rugby, playing it at recess everytime with my friends. Do girls like rough guys looking hurt cause my friend got his crush to like him that way. Some women say that it's impossible to change a man. I must say, they're roughly 35% right. Many girls I know in my school play hard to get, and I've had a few other crushes. I don't see much of a response from them though. Out of all of them, especially the new ones, my crush on Nahyeon seems to last forever.
If she ever leaves the school I'll think like day and night about telling her the day she leaves, and maybe I can get her number. My sister has lots of boy friends (not boyfriends, just friends that are boys) and she invites them over a few times. I'm sure there's at least one crush in the group.
Alex, if you were me you'd probably be refusing to tell her more. So, you're like me only with the different gender. We often try to avoid each other, and she seems to smile whenever she talks to me like she's hiding something, or a laugh she's trying to keep in. She usually frowns if she has no idea what I'm talking about, lol I would too.