Well speaking from personal experience in loosing a best friend and an aunt, don't expect her to get over it. It takes often years. Sometimes it hits you and you feel overwhemled. A few weeks ago in school I started crying just because I remembered my friend was gone.
Make sure she knows that it's okay to cry. If she wants to talk about it, let her. Don't force her to talk, that's the worse. If she says she wants to be alone, don't linger. Just accept her requests. But if you feel she's cronically depressed and needs furthur help than you can give, don't be scared to tell an adult. She may get upset over that, but she'll thank you. Believe me. Just be the best friend you can be, never getting too close but never going too far away.
Wait a while before you take her on an outing. If she needs to get out, perhaps a movie. Avoid dramas, try to see a comedy. The sillier the better. But sometimes what you need to cope is just a little time to think on your own. Depends and varies with each person. If she's your best friend, you'll know what she needs.
I'm so, so sorry. And I hope you can help your friend. Wind to thy wings.
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