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ok, so this one kid who is my.. "friend" (from now on to be refered as J) has no other friends and all my friends (from now on to be refered as A) dont like him. A comes up and is like "o that seat is reserved" because it is, and J just sits down and says "to bad" and he thinks no-one is sitting there and its just a plot for A to get J away from me. so then one of A's friends comes over and is all like "omigosh! wheres my seat" and J still thinks no ones gonna sit there. so imon the bus and J's all mad at me and stuff...
then this creepy thats one grade above us starts pulling on his hair and he gets more mad...
So i come home last night and my mom is like "Your friends are so mean, do you know what they said to J?" and i go "yea, and its not my fault, i cant control what they do or say, who they do and dont like....etc" and so then shes all like and she tells me i cant be friends with A anymore, and J only has one friend, which is me and he's getting really annoying.
J thinks this is one huge war so he pulls me aside and sits be me so im in a corner where no one else sits and is all commando on me trying to get me to ditch A and he's trying to control me.... and now i dont want to be his friend anymore, and i've told him like 20 times but he cant get it thru his thick skull. What should i do...

I think you should sit down with A and J and just talk to them about this. Just make sure you talk to them at different times, so there won't be any conflict. Try asking A to at least try to be nice to J, not neccisarly be friends with him, but just be polite to him if he wants to sit with you. Maybe you should try getting J to meet new people so he won't always have to tag along with you all the time because he doesn't have anyone else to hang out with.

Everyone go play basketball/rollerblade/streethockey/ something you can all do together and blow off steam. Try to find some common ground where everyone can be friends or at least on a team or part of the group.
Do a bit of reasearch on your friends and try to find some common ground. If J and A both like the same things, maybe you can get them talking about the same things while you play a game. Say everyone like Cars, or a certain sport or anything. Try to get everyone talking at least. They might find out they have some common ground if you can get them to talk.

If your other friends just can't like J even in a game-type setting or part of a team, then you'll just have to be friends with them seperately. You'll have to explain to J that you are going to have J time and A time, and that you'll make time for him too sometimes. ( That is if you want to do this. If you think you'll never make time for him, then be honest about it. )

I had a friend like that once, but she really wasn't my friend. She just was my friend when she was absolutely bored and had nothing else to do. So if you think it is going to be like that with you and J, you need to be honest about it.

If possible, maybe you could at least help J to find some friends if you can't be friends. I don't know, it really isn't your obligation. But I myself know what it is like to be rejected. It really hurts when you know your friend doesn't really like you, they are just bored and you are a temporary relief for that.

I feel sorry for J because he is having trouble making friends. I know there were times when I felt so lonely I just wanted to die. Thankfully I never did anything extreme, but depression is a bad thing, let me tell you. You aren't obligated to be anyone's friend or to help them find friends. But it would be nice if you could do something to help him somehow. And if you have to break it off, try to do it nicely.


I know how hard it is to choose who to be friends with. Anyone would rather be friends with lots of people and be part of a group than only have one friend. Especially if that one friend isn't very highly thought of by other people. I am sure anyone would rather hang with a bunch of cool kids than a clingy nerd. But are the "cool kids" really cool? Do you actually like them or do you think they are a bunch of jerks really? Whose company do you actually enjoy the most? You are smart enough to decide what your heart tells you to do.

its not like that with me and him.. i just kinda grew up faster i guess... like i got more interested with females and he still thinks they all have cooties, he's into making paperclips into weapons that you can empale people with during shool and im into xbox and making movies and such... he still calls dumb ideas the other word for queeer.. [sp?(my comp wont let me type it....)] and i just go with the flow untill we get into a mess and then we fix it...

I had a slightly similar situation when I was in high school. One of my oldest friends and I grew apart because I grew up faster and (to me) she was still this childish kid. It put a strain on our friendship because I would be embarassed over all the silly things she did, things that I used to find just as amusing.

We were in the same large group of friends but we hardly spoke to each other for almost a year. The thing is that really she didn't change that much when she "grew up", she still does daft things and is hyper half the time. The difference is that before when I thought I was too grown up for her I then realised I was just as if not more childish than her and I accepted her for who she was and apologised. We still never got back to where we were but I think that would have happened anyway.

The difference here I think is that most likely your friend will "grow up" or at least get to where you and your other friends are in due time and it would be a shame to close off comunication until then. On the other hand you shouldn't have to sacrifice your other friendships for him, try and explain to him that you want time to hang with other people and he should do likewise. If you hang around with one person only for too long at school you'll end up hating each other.

Maybe join some after school activities together and he's bound to find new people with the same interests. Good luck anyhow, and I do sympathise - even though I did it to my friend subconsciously, it was also done to me earlier by another group of people. Just try to make sure you're looking out for yourself but imagine if you were in his shoes too.

I think you need to tell some of them to stop being drop kicks and be friends with who you want to be friends with, but also keep in mind what your mother suggests, because like it or not, your friends will mold the type of person you become. Choose your friends wisely.

my mom talked to me AGAIN.. she's like "you either get your friends to be nice to him or drop them totally" and im scared now because he's making weapons DURING school and all this other stuff and yea.. ugh i was gonna say something else but i forgot