Setekh wrote:
Moongewl wrote:
Setekh wrote:
No, little sigh, not everything is the parents fault.
But they're the obvious people to blame. (And by "obvious" I mean "most apparant.") Any way you look at it, there has to be an enabler somewhere along the line. She didn't get to be hundreds of pounds overweight by herself. Maybe it was someone else living with her who encouraged her eating habits, but it seems far more likely that the parents encouraged it--barring that, they still didn't take the necessary steps to treat her problems before they affected her life permanently.
Or, she's bullemic (Bullemic... The anti-anorexia).
The problem is, no one will take blame for their actions. Ever.
someone gets run over, they sue the driver and paste over the fact that they weren't paying attention.
Someone dies in surgery and their family sues the damn hospital!
That's the problem you see, no one is willing to accept that they were wrong and will shift the blame.
Mind the Xenophobia and inherent G-D complex of humanity doesn't help either.
She's not bulimic. Bullemic generally involves a weight loss as well. If she had a disease such as Prayder Willies syndrome where she was always hungry, this would be quite understandable. Bulimia involves binge eating and normally throwing up or using something else (laxatives) to help pass the food through you.
She may have something else going on mentally which makes her hungry. Prayder Willies is a big issue, it's a scary disorder where the person never feels full, so they always want to eat. It needs to be managed properly and carefully and i've only met one kid with it and her parents watched her like a hawk (and so did the camp I worked at). It's terrifying. Everything she ate had to be measured out. She could have "one cup" of chips, or "one tablespoon of salad dressing". Their bodies process food differently (because they constantly think they're starving), so she was on a low fat diet for the most part. It also creates obsessive compulsive disorders because (in her case at least), you become obsessive about amounts and weights and such.
Anyways. I think given her age, it is more of a parental thing. If she was older I wouldn't have a problem with this. But they've known she's had issues for awhile. I've seen her on Maury every so often for the past couple years. Her mother or grandmother always cries about not knowing what to do and how she needs help and i'm sorry, but obviously nothing had been changing. That I would consider to be parental blame. I'd also be willing to throw child services into the mix considering this is quite cruel and obviously abuse (they're hurting her quality of life), and child services should have stepped in or forced something upon her considering the conditions. It's not just abuse if you 'starve' your children.
Whats worse is she's not the only child out there like this. Those Maury shows parade quite a few of them around.

Evisceration is a sign of respect.