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Tue Sep 07, 2004 4:37 am

I think you should try generally what Quanda is saying... that sort of thing usually does work. But as you get older thru highschool things do pick up a bit :) I hope it gets better for you... if it does keep on getting worse there are people you can tlak to about it

*I kinda deleted my advice when I realised how ridiculous I am... and why i'm not meant to give advice to people*

But I really hope people stop being so harsh to you... you could always try changing AIM accounts?

Tue Sep 07, 2004 4:43 am

I look as it this way:
If you're in any grade from K-8, then it will all blow over and they will eventually grow up, but if your in Highschool, then I'd really suggest changing schools. This has happened to me oh so many time's. I got bugged in grade 7 and 8. Now the girls who used to bug me, are my best friends, and they have appoligized, they realized they were just being childish. I'm sorry it has happened to you. Just remember you're the smart one in this situation, not them. You don't have to sink to there level to become even.

Tue Sep 07, 2004 12:02 pm

FreaksRule! wrote:If you're in any grade from K-8, then it will all blow over and they will eventually grow up, but if your in Highschool, then I'd really suggest changing schools.


I don't suggest changing schools. They'll laugh at you more for that- you're letting them win way too easily, and what's more it's running away from your problems, which is NEVER the answer. You're a good actress, correct? Then act like it doesn't bother you. It won't be fun for them anymore if they think it doesn't bother you.

Tue Sep 07, 2004 12:28 pm

awwww, zega!!! *hugz* i really feel for you. i had problems at school when some girls in my class decided they didnt want to be friends with me anymore, and would make my life hell. no where near as bad as you've got it tho

in the end i just ignored them, avoided them and looked around for people who weren't ridiculing me and made friends with them instead. in classes i sat with all the guys (which wasn't a problem as i've always gotten on with guys better than girls) and in breaks i was friends with people in the year below me who live by me.

in the end the girls grew up, and i was actually really good friends with one of them in my last year of school.

i'd say, take a deep breath, look around for people who aren't giving you hassle, because they're the kind of people you want to be friends with anyway, and it may not seem that way now, but it will all blow over eventually. like everyone else has said, just find something else to occupy your time, as if you're hanging around doing nothing they'll find it 100 times easier to ridicule you etc etc.

i hope some of what i've said has helped. *another hug*

Tue Sep 07, 2004 4:38 pm

As someone previously said, change your AIM to something as unsimilar as possible.


As for the harrassment, just laugh at them. When they see it doesn't affect you, they'll forget.


I can understand the friend thing. One of my best friends was caught by the popular bug. She ignores me and tells me to get lost all the time, forgets that I was once the person she was closest to. ¬.¬

Tue Sep 07, 2004 6:07 pm

Can I have the evil girls SNs?


*evil laugh*

Tue Sep 07, 2004 6:08 pm

Kitten Medli wrote:
Zero wrote:
Kitten Medli wrote:That isn't really a nice idea,Zero.


Better to vent it at them then bottle it up and have it blow open another time. :\


Thats fine and peachy,but its better to do it another way.


Would you care to tell us what way, the 'another way' is?
What Zero said has a good side about it. Like he already said, it's better to let it out from time to time instead of letting it bottle up inside of you.

And again, like others have already said. Try joining clubs or something like them. Assuming there are clubs or something at your school. We don't have them here, and there isn't really any way to join a 'group' of some sort. Unless you just start hanging around with one, you'll slowly get accepted. Or rejected. There's many groups out there. :P

About the 'popular kids'. It amuses me to see how so many people dislike them. Why don't you like them? Because they're popular? Not all 'popular' people are like the childish little girls mentioned in the first post.

Tue Sep 07, 2004 8:09 pm

Part of the post removed -- not your fault at all.

Zega, try your best to ignore it. I know this is easier said then done, but at least try. Spend your spare time writing down things you WANT to say, but can't without getting suspended or something. Better yet, write angry letters and don't send them. Find a way to vent your frustration.

Tue Sep 07, 2004 8:57 pm

Stijn wrote:About the 'popular kids'. It amuses me to see how so many people dislike them. Why don't you like them? Because they're popular? Not all 'popular' people are like the childish little girls mentioned in the first post.


When people say popular, they don't mean "People that are well known amongst a group of people". If that were the case, I'd be popular. Popular is more of a false term for stuck-up, snobby people that spend most of their time trying to be cool for the "in-group" and hang out with an abnormal amount of friends (say 25+?) Or people that don't really have any "real" friends and can shrug them off if the situation calls for it.
That's the way I see it, and most people that fall under any of the above, are likely to stay close to the stereotype. Sadly, many "popular" kids aren't even really that popular...

Tue Sep 07, 2004 9:12 pm

Hm..this happend to me too. I'd suggest turning on the privacy feature on aim, where only people you add onto your buddy list can IM you. I personally just say ignore it at school. I believe you want to be an actress, correct? Aim high, and you'll probably end up more successful than them when you're older. :)

Tue Sep 07, 2004 10:07 pm

Stijn wrote:What Zero said has a good side about it. Like he already said, it's better to let it out from time to time instead of letting it bottle up inside of you.


I'm a girl. :P

Oh, just a reminder, ignoring never works. At least not when they're the kind who threaten you. And telling the teachers does NOTHING. And don't say it was just my school, it was both the schools I went to. I told them numerous times when this kid was bothering me, and ya know what they did? Squat. Ya know what I did? I got my older brother to walk me to school... :evil:

Know someone at least five years older than you? Bring 'em along one day and get them to yell at the kid. My brother yelled at the guy bothering me, and he started crying. I may be twisted, but it was kinda funny. Got what he deserved... >:]

Tue Sep 07, 2004 10:53 pm

Oh, geez, threats??? Gah, I'm sorry, I didn't read through very carefully :(

In that case, you should tell your local police-peoples. That's what I did when guys kept prank calling my house. It's sufficiently serious to get most people to panic.

Tue Sep 07, 2004 11:35 pm

Zero wrote:
Stijn wrote:What Zero said has a good side about it. Like he already said, it's better to let it out from time to time instead of letting it bottle up inside of you.


I'm a girl. :P

Oh, just a reminder, ignoring never works. At least not when they're the kind who threaten you. And telling the teachers does NOTHING. And don't say it was just my school, it was both the schools I went to. I told them numerous times when this kid was bothering me, and ya know what they did? Squat. Ya know what I did? I got my older brother to walk me to school... :evil:

Know someone at least five years older than you? Bring 'em along one day and get them to yell at the kid. My brother yelled at the guy bothering me, and he started crying. I may be twisted, but it was kinda funny. Got what he deserved... >:]


Every person I've ever ignored has never bothered me ever again, it almost always works, it just takes a bit of time. As for the threats, depending on the severity, those will probably blow over as well. But since you can't depend on that, it would be wise to find some source of protection, or revenge without these people knowing about it. Just showing that you are fine and better off without them will probably make them discouraged and lose interest. I've gone through the same thing since I was in probably 3rd grade. Many people these days will jump when someone cool tells them to. Idiots will be idiots, but if need be, I'm sure there are people that will back you up. ;)

Wed Sep 08, 2004 1:23 pm

Zero wrote:
Stijn wrote:What Zero said has a good side about it. Like he already said, it's better to let it out from time to time instead of letting it bottle up inside of you.


I'm a girl. :P

Oh, just a reminder, ignoring never works. At least not when they're the kind who threaten you. And telling the teachers does NOTHING. And don't say it was just my school, it was both the schools I went to. I told them numerous times when this kid was bothering me, and ya know what they did? Squat. Ya know what I did? I got my older brother to walk me to school... :evil:

Know someone at least five years older than you? Bring 'em along one day and get them to yell at the kid. My brother yelled at the guy bothering me, and he started crying. I may be twisted, but it was kinda funny. Got what he deserved... >:]


Heh, sorry. I didn't know. :P

And again, I agree with you. Bringing an older person does help. ;)
Now I'm not one of the smallest people, so I generally can take care of myself. (Assuming the people bothering me aren't bigger than me ;-;). But I have gone to my brother's school several times. :hug:

Wed Sep 15, 2004 12:53 am

Ah, I THINK you can get email adresses from AIM, if you are a real techie.

Confront the girls. Be polite at first. If it get's bad, be polite but kinda harsh. If it gets really bad, tell someone, maybe a teacher or something.
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