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If you let people get at you, you'll be hurt. A lot.

Trust me.

Don't let it get to you.

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Sorry, by the way, for speaking for you, but I made the point that as you have asperger's you'll have seen psychologists before and they'd probably pick up on it ifyou were.

That's okay Yep, I have seen psychologists before. If I was that depressed they would have suggested prozac or something. But they haven't so I'm okay. My problem is I'm over-sensitive. I take things to seriously and take what people say to me to heart.

Well, I think you're cool. Big up the English chicks with good taste in music.

I used to be like you, Ginger. Infact, I still am. I know what it's like to get attacked, be the different one, but I'm definatly better off not swaying to fit society's mold and building my emotional strength. This is all a part of God's lessions, months or years down the road you'll look back and say,"Hey, that was tough but now look how much stronger it has made me."

*pats Ginger*

I agree with Medli. Don't worry about it. I'm sure you have many positive responses as well, but you're just focusing on the negative ones because they affect you more. When you see something like that, try to think where they're coming from and use it as a lesson for the future. If it really bothers you, just take a deep breath, step back, and go do something else for a bit. Not everyone is always going to like you and sometimes people also are just having a bad day and you caught them off.

It's all good. We all get negative posts once in a while. You just have to deal and move on.

Anubis, you are so, so right.

Ginger, some people just march to the beat of a different drummer. And, contrary to what public opinion and the media think, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And, you seem to be that type of person. So, don't beat yourself up for being different, OK?

It is great to be different. And, so horribly boring to be the same as everyone else. And, yes, after 40 some years of life, I can brush off the rudeness and the feeling like I don't quite fit in and stuff. Trust me. I live in a town where people practically have diamonds dripping off of their fingers, every woman's hair is perfectly "frosted" and all they can talk about is the tennis club. Gah! *sticks finger down throat* And, me in blue jeans and tennis shoes. So, I don't fit in--at all--and I don't give a smurf.

But, I remember a bit of what it was like to be a teenager and not to seem to fit in. My daughter is going through it right now. She is so, so brilliant and thinks on an entirely different plane than her classmates. She is teaching herself Japanese and creating websites while her classmates can only think about the latest fashions and how to best get a boy's attention.

So, it hurts when you don't fit in. When you seem to say all the wrong things. When you feel at unease. But, never, ever give up on yourself and blame yourself for being different. God, or whoever created us, made you the way you are for a reason. And, instead of trying to change yourself into something that you are not, you need to figure out a way, like Anubis said, to not let it get to you. Because there are other "different" people out there, as well, who will accept you just the way you are. They may be hard to find but they are out there. And, there will always be people who want to shoot you down--these people lack power and self-confidence so they make fun of/criticize anyone who isn't just like them so they can feel better about themselves.

That being said, it doesn't hurt to talk to a medical professional about the way you feel. Not so that the person can "change" you, but so that you can eventually be OK with the way you are.

And, always remember this: Albert Einstein was so "scatterbrained" that he often went out of the house with mismatched sox. And look at what a genius he was. But, I bet if he was going to high school today, people would tease him mercilessly for being so, so different and for not fitting in.

Morning Star, I'd just like to tell you that you give brilliant advice Thank you for being so supportive and kind and everything. You're brill!

And I can't forget everyone else either...but to Morning Star you lot ain't nothin'

Kiddin' XD

Thanks people

I would post more but I'm darn tired tonight...I may edit this post tomorrow. If I can remember

Glad to be of help, Ginger!

I stopped worrying. In fact, I stopped caring what people think. One time not long ago I thought I found a fault with some one and was corrected.

The main thing I focus on is the mood you are in and how it affects your words. I try to keep my own mild depression out of my posts. You might be accidently mis-expressing yourself due to an unrelated issue.

Another thing to consider is that there are people out there who are very sensitive and some will take offense at just about anything you dish out. I left a whole gaming community because so many people were like that.

Ginger, I've never once found you offensive. Ever.

If I didn't see you posting, I would think something were wrong. You're like, a known figure here. You are recognised, don't worry.

You know. The only person who can "cure" the way you're feeling is yourself. Firstly, I don't think anyone has been offended by the way you post. I know I haven't. It seems you don't have much confidence in what you say; don't worry about that, it's no biggie, personally I'm like that too. There are some times that you feel that whatever people say is pricking you, whatever you do is wrong and you just can't understand why it's happening. So then you put it on yourself and become angry. Most people probably felt that way without knowing (I just made that up 'cause you know, it kinda sounds good not. ok, ignore).

I had similar discussion with my friend the other day, except it wasn't nice and gentle...a load of anger was being let out (by me ). So put what I say in a more angry and occasionally add in some swearing then you'd probably get the feeling. I thought I should be a nicer person than I am now but you know what, don't change yourself for others. Change because you want to for yourself. You're cool being you and no one can change that and as long as you think you're cool with it, then all is good. If what others say keeps getting to you, then, defend yourself, they really shouldn't. Especially little comments here and there. I get those all the time, sure it does prick a little, but don't dwell on them. And now I'm going to steal what my friend said, "you're human, not an angel, deal with it (meaning other people should deal with you )! EMBRACE your HUMANITY. let not the masses dictate how you should change" There is no way you can change yourself to become a saint and everyone would like you. There are always people who won't come to like you and there's no point being angry at yourself for it.

Like earlier said, little comments here and there doesn't mean they don't like you. And if this post doesn't make a slightest sense, then... I don't know. Have a cookie. *gives you cookies*

No matter what you say, there's always some idjit out there who will take it the wrong way and flip out. I've had people I've never even really talk to assume things about the way I am. Most people are like that.

By the way, it IS against the rules to harass another member, so if someone goes too far, just drop me a PM, or PM another mod. That goes for everybody. We have purdy stars for a reason, guys, but we can't be everywhere at once.

Jaye, that is such a profound statement. So simple, yet so true. It should be a slogan for living.

I'm taking notes.